Father-Daughter Relationship

“A dad is a daughter’s first love and he, by virtue of his exalted paternal stature, remains most influential in shaping how the daughter expects to be treated by men later on in her life. I am afraid good fathers indeed set the bar high.”

-The Little Mermaid, MMXVI

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Author: The Little Mermaid

My soul is an enthralling mystery, delicately concocted with some chaos and a little glee.

178 thoughts on “Father-Daughter Relationship”

  1. En evoluciΓ³n retornamos a los principios de la especie donde el alfa contiene orienta y cree en sucesiΓ³n, porque entiendo hubo un periodo ventana…eso creo, solo yo, claro
    In evolution we return to the principles of the species where the alpha contains orientates and believes in succession, because I understand there was a window period … I think, only me, of course

    1. Hi Oscar, you have raised a pertinent point which I attribute due to the startling deterioration of moral values in our society. This is not only in the USA but rather it concerns the whole of humanity.

      According to Hinduism, we are presently living in an era known as the ‘Kali Yuga’, adumbratively marked by widespread decadence, sin, corruption, gluttony and lust. In this age of darkness and ignorance, people slide further down the track of dishonesty, with virtue being of little value. Unrestrained sexual indulgences increase. Knowledge is lost. Food and water become scarce, as do family bonds-which is what is happening everyday in all countries of the world.

      Such is the tragic state we are in and the only thing we can do is to try to keep our head above water by meditation to purify our soul, by seeking the truth and by following the path to light.

      I wish you enjoy an amazing Sunday. Bon weekend!

      Love and hugs X

      1. Thanks for the perspective. Hinduism is a way of thought and belief that I am least familiar with. I agree that we can most account for our own behavior and attitudes.
        – Oscar

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      1. Thanks for replying me. This reply means alot to me.

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    1. Just like it takes both a man and a woman to create the physique of a child, it takes the same man and woman to build up their child’s emotional and mental constitution. Good parents don’t just happen. They are made.

  3. But there comes a time when daughters and sons realise their fathers and mothers are just flawed ordinary human beings and sometimes as their parents grow old they have to care for them which introduces old age in reality.

    1. Hi Kertsen, I have noticed that with every generation, children’s personal rights are increasingly becoming important and more pronounced but their responsibilities and obligations towards their parents and society seem to have run out of steam. Shall we blame it on this dangerous disease called ‘individualism’?

      It is painfully tragic to see nice parents being robbed of respect by their own offspring. I really hope some of these so-called ultra modern people come to realise the worth of having good parents-no amount of money can buy that.

      Thank you very much for your input. Have a nice day!

      Hugs and kisses x

      1. You are correct it is becoming serious in our western democracies and is fostered by young people being told about all the rights they have.
        We are individuals but we must try to put our humanity above our individuality. It’s not easy because we have a tendency to be self-centred and to magnify our own importance.

        1. I can’t see where the boundary between humanity and individuality is? Are they not together? Even though the more human you are the more you might realize we are in this together?

          1. Individuality stems from the human sense of self , which some neuroscientists claim is an illusion. Ironically those who deny the self and free will still behave as if they have both. Julian Jaynes believed that humans did not become self- conscious until about three thousand years ago and early humans had a bicameral mind. It is an interesting possibility and we know that young children have to develope self consciousness.
            It is also the origin of moral thought, the internal battle between what we should do and what we want to do; as Freud put it ‘ we are at war with ourselves’ .

  4. Both my beautiful daughters saved a dance for me at their weddings…..to the song “Daddy’s Little Girl”. The men they married are the most important men in their lives now, as it should be…..but in my heart, they’ll always be my little girls.
    Thanks for the post and the sweet picture.

  5. How timely that I am just now seeing this post of yours; so beautiful! I have been behind in the WordPress World!
    But I was just thinking so fondly of my father today…as I actually had a dream , or a vision maybe? in which he spoke to me.
    I ‘ve never experienced anything like that before, and seldom even recall dreams.. But I have been missing him more lately, even though he passed away 4 years ago. Just that comforting presence that assures you “all will be well” that fathers have. And in fact, now that I think of it, that’s what he did in my dream—He simply appeared –kind of walked up out of nowhere (there was no plot), and I said, “DAD! What are you doing here?!” Thinking to myself in the dream..”How can you be here?!” And he just walked over, smiled and said,
    “I just came to give you a hug.” And he did. Then he was gone again, just like that.
    But it’s wonderful to think on it –and feel his presence. Remembering good things is a gift, and it helps us treasure the moment we are living in even more.

    1. Hello dear, I am sorry for your loss. This must have been a very, very touching moment for you. Your account with your deceased father in your dreams reminds me of one of the most beautiful scenes from the classic Disney animated feature “The Lion King”. Light-hearted young Simba and his father, Musafa share a stirring conversation while watching over the forestland. It goes something like this:

      Young Simba: Dad?

      Mufasa: Hmm?

      Young Simba: We’re pals, right?

      Mufasa: Right.

      Young Simba: And we’ll always be together, right?

      Mufasa: Simba, let me tell you something my father told me. Look at the stars. The great kings of the past look down on us from those stars.

      Young Simba: Really?

      Mufasa: Yes. So whenever you feel alone, just remember that those kings will always be there to guide you. And so will I.

      It is true that our departed ancestors are always here to move obstacles out of our way, to protect us and watch over us, to teach us and guide us all along our journey. They are our guardian angels who reach out to us through dreams like you had, scents or even coincidences-just to tell us that they are around, not to worry and that they love us unconditionally.

      May God rest the soul of your father in peace.

      I send you love, light, warm hugs and kisses. X

  6. Very strong line, that last sentence. “Good fathers set the bar too high”. I had a nice relationship with my father (I’m male), even though my mother did not. It’s a pity that so many children are growing up fatherless.

    1. Indeed, Yure. It seems fatherless children are increasingly common. My own farther died when I was two, and I was the only kid in my class without one. But today? Today, so many!

      1. My dad divorced from mom when I was nine. I still see him, tho, and we still love each other a lot. There’s a decline in marriage and an increasing divorce rate. While I understand the reasons, I worry about the children. I think it could be compensated if single fathers adopted children. If you are on your own, it can’t be so hard. So many children are in need of a parent, why not a single father?

  7. Little Mermaid, how you spin the contiguity narrative that’s of us (my beautiful daughter and me). Till the age of 10 and 11, she must seek my laps to commence her goodnight sleep.

    I’ve taught her many things. Once (about 5 years ago) she confided an inner thought in me and asked me whether I’ll tell anybody; and guess what I got for the reply when I told her, “Not even your mother”? A warm embrace, that definitely intoned, “That’s my Dad!”

  8. I have heard that quote already, that the way you love your daughter is what they will learn to expect from future loves in their life, and try to emulate everything my girls should expect in the future. Do you find this true Ariel?

  9. I would argue against this…I think that all men have stereotypical personalities and fathers just tend to fit into one of these stereotypes. You could say you date men who are nice because your father was nice but any male can be “nice”….this idea is really saying your Dad is a man and all men can be described the same way.

  10. So today I contemplate being completely honest with my daughter, will be likely revealing I am a transgender female to her. Does this put me on the side of moral depravity since it does not fit the mold, or move me forward because I am being honest and forthright and authentic with this lovely bright teen? I think love and honesty and presence might count more than having the traditional home (no matter how much we may long to be traditional, sometimes people break the mold, sometimes the mold breaks people). I do know she has the right to always call me Dad. Will she still play ping-pong with me? She is really really good at it. Here’s to fathers, may God help us all.

  11. Interesting quote considering your username. The Little Mermaid seems to have a father whose love inspired her to want to be more than who she was. Then had to learn to come to terms with the strong person he created.

    1. You have made an interesting observation and it is quite true also. All that I am I owe to my father. His love and admirable strength of character have been the backbone of my existence.

      Thank you for dropping by. I hope you will have a great midweek.

      Hugs and kisses X

  12. True for those with great father and daughter relationships – may not apply to those who don’t. I didn’t have a great relationship with my dad and he was a dad but not my father figure. The one thing I learnt was that I did not want that same relationship for my daughter with her father. My husband is a great father to my daughter, I am happy she has a relationship with her dad that I never had. Thanks for sharing, peace and blessings πŸ™‚

  13. I wrote about it in my last article. This is a very important issue for me as a father. A daughter who is expecting a good treatment will not choose the first better boy. She will choose a valuable man who will delight her.

  14. I was blessed to have a wonderful dad: attentive, wise, supportive, and helpful, but who also disciplined me as needed. If more dads made good parenting a priority, our world would be a better place! P.S. Thank you for visiting my blog, From the Inside Out!

      1. I will, for sure. Mi piaci tu e il tuo blog. I like both you and your blog. Je t’aime toi et ton blog, ensemble.
        But I am any Italian from Rome πŸ˜‰

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